Sticks and Stones

“You like to be angry.  You do it with me, you do it with other people too.” I don’t write a lot about my husband in this space.  I’ve definitely gone light on the troubles in our marriage.   I have never thought it really was appropriate for me to talk about truly publicly, and only [...]

Adrift…And….Feeling Stupid

You know what I hate? I hate when you go and read someone’s blog and you discover that, through their own words and takes and experiences on life, that you really don’t like them. This doesn’t happen often to me, of course.  I go to blogs that are written by people that I am sure [...]

A Different World

When I met my husband in 1995, I thought he and I had a lot in common.  We were both crazy computer people, in an age still well before personal computers and internet access were common place.  We both were independent, working hard at our careers and had a lot of ambition at the starting [...]

Dizzy

Back in my twenties, it seemed to make a sort of sense.  When I was searching for The One With Whom I Would Share My Life, I sort of got it.  You know, the idea that one person could just not possibly be enough for a person throughout their whole life. At that point in [...]

Dysfunctional Thanksgiving

It’s the day after Thanksigiving and I feel decidedly….ungrateful. And for the life of me, I’m trying to get myself back to that place of gratitude, to look around me at my blessings and my gifts, of all the rambling statuses on Facebook that people posted yesterday about life and love and happiness….but I’m just [...]

“That’s So Gay”

“Oh, that is SO gay,” my daughter said the other night at the dinner table. My husband and I looked at each other, a question there for both of us.  Do we go there?  My 22 year old son, home now post college graduation and furiously interviewing at any number of amazing companies, looked down [...]

Slipping Through Our Fingers

We were sitting around the kitchen table in our rented condo with R’s parents and my father.  The wine was flowing, and the kids had already scattered from the table, enjoying the 72 degree breezes coming in from our open doorwall.  It was the first day of our annual sojurn to Florida for Christmas.  R [...]

Here We Go Again

“Can I talk to you?” R asked, not looking up from his computer screen. “Sure,” I said, drawing out the word to show my confusion at the request.  It was a warm Saturday afternoon in August, and I was bustling around with laundry and tidying.  The kids were watching TV downstairs in the artificial cool [...]

A Labyrinth of Medicine

“How can they still not know what is wrong with you?” I asked, frustrated, after arriving at the hospital the next morning. It had been a crazy day.  I’d picked R up at work, where they did have a small, medical clinic.  The nurse there did tell us which hospital of the two in the [...]

What’s Wrong?

It was January 2.  I was sitting on the conference room at our Board of Education, listening to our superintendent talk about the school budget. It was a Parents’ Council meeting.  Several representatives from each schools’ PTO came to listen to the district wide news, what each school’s group was doing, from elementary onto the [...]